I am taking a rest for personal reasons. Maybe I’ll update the website with new content sporadically. Bookmark my website and come back when you have free time.
I am taking a rest for personal reasons. Maybe I’ll update the website with new content sporadically. Bookmark my website and come back when you have free time.
Dale Carnegie. A reformed hothead who learned the art of manipulation after experiencing a series of down spirals in his life. Initially, I thought that this book was a lite version of the 48 Laws Of Power by Robert Greene, but I was wrong. The 48 Laws Of Power is a beginner manual on how to build power and respect. How To Win Friends And Influence People is an extension which helps you to maintain the power and respect that you’ve earned. So let’s dive right into it.
1. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain.
2. Dale Carnegie opens by saying that most criminals and politicians try to justify their actions when faced with criticism.
3. He explains that you shouldn’t expect normal people to take responsibility for their actions if most criminals and politicians refuse to do so.
1. You should refrain from giving constructive criticism unless it will help you to achieve your goals (whatever your goals may be).
2. You can increase your influential power by not triggering the defensive shields of others.
1. Well-timed compliments help to influence the behavior of people.
2. He opens by saying that everyone wants to feel important.
3. He explains that most people become subservient when you make them feel important.
1. You should give strategic praise to those who can help to further your cause.
1. Give people what they think they want in order to get what you want.
2. Think about what the other person wants before you think about what you want.
3. Frame the solution as a win for the other person.
1. You can entice others to behave the way that you like with carrots.
2. The way you present the carrot is more important than the carrot itself.
3. The way you present the carrot changes the perception of the carrot.
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Dale Carnegie opens by saying that the key to knowing people is by asking them stupid questions about themselves.
3. He explains that you can build helpful relationships by getting to know peoples names and inquiring about the small details in peoples lives.
1. You should put your energy into courteous interactions with all types of people for the purpose of network building.
2. Only by getting to know people will you discover the resources and connections they have.
1. He opens by saying that pretending to be happy makes you feel happy.
2. Carnegie explains that happiness attracts people.
3. Happiness + People = Success.
1. You shouldn’t dwell on negative emotions.
2. You should learn to convert your negative emotions into positive emotions and smile.
1. He opens and closes by saying that name recognition makes it easier to accomplish your goals.
1. You should try your best to remember the names of important people because it will work in your favor over the long run.
1. He opens by saying that most of us aren’t half as interesting we think we are.
2. Carnegie explains that it’s always better to indulge others and stroke their egos instead of our own.
1. You should indulge others and listen to their rambles.
1. He opens by saying that it’s often better to take an indirect approach to get what you want.
2. Carnegie explains that learning how to ramble is a good way to build interest.
3. He closes by saying that you should usually avoid taking the direct route.
1. It means that you can miss opportunities to get what you want by taking the bull in a China shop approach to things.
1. Carnegie opens by saying that everyone is better than you in some aspect.
2. He explains that you need to make those people feel important in what they do so that you can get what you want out of them.
1. You should pull people up in an attempt to unlock their talents and abilities (only if it helps to serve your cause).
1. Carnegie opens and closes by explaining that avoiding confrontation can sometimes assist you in getting what you want.
“… I have listened to, engaged in, and watched the effect of thousands of arguments. As a result of all this, I have come to the conclusion that there is only one way under high heaven to get the best of an argument – and that is to avoid it… Nine times out of ten, an argument ends with the contestants more firmly convinced than ever that he is absolutely right… A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.” – Dale Carnegie
“Men must be taught as if you taught them not,
And things unknown proposed as things forgot.”
“Be wiser than other people if you can, but do not tell them so.”
“Our first reaction to most of other people’s statements is to evaluate or judge rather than understand.”
1. You should admit when you’re wrong, rectify it, learn from it and come out stronger than those who cautiously try to avoid making missteps.
1. Carnegie opens by saying that you have to casually plant your ideas into the minds others.
2. He explains that most people will eventually believe that your ideas were their own original ideas in the first place.
3. He closes by saying that sometimes you have to hand the glory over to others (if you want to control them).
“Merely stating the truth isn’t enough. The truth has to be made vivid, interesting, dramatic. You have to use showmanship.”
I’m getting tired, so I’ll split this book overview into two parts. Check back tomorrow.
You can view my answers here Taking the political compass test. (It will open on a separate page).
1. Of course, economic globalization should mainly serve the people. Not the corporations.
2. Soft disagree.
3. Disagree. It was by chance that I was born into the family that I have. That doesn’t mean that my love for them should change. So, no I don’t think it’s foolish to feel a sense of pride for your country of birth.
4. I’m a white guy, and I agree with this statement.
5. Yeah, the enemy of my enemy is my friend.
6. Soft agree.
8. Yeah, agree.
9. Strongly disagree. Decreasing the rate of unemployment is more important than controlling inflation.
10. I agree. There must be standard regulations that require corporations to protect the environment.
11. Strongly disagree. Fuck off Karl Marx.
12. Agree. Tap water water should be good enough for the whole of society.
13. Strongly disagree. I’m in favor of buying and selling land.
14. Yeah, I agree.
15. Agreed. Protectionism is sometimes necessary in trade.
16. Disagree. That’s not to say that it isn’t important for companies to deliver profits to their shareholders. However, I believe that the needs of the employees should come first as they’re the most important asset to every company.
17. I agree that the rich are taxed too much in Canada. There is a declining incentive to strive for greatness because of the ridiculously high taxes that are imposed on the wealthy and the middle class. The federal government redistributes your hard earned tax dollars to lazy, undeserving people. They say that this redistribution of money is done in good faith. I don’t think so.
18. Yeah, I agree. I’m not in favor of paying for medical care through my taxes. When I need medical care, I’ll pay for it. Medical care should be a private enterprise.
21. Disagree. You could have a free market under a political dictatorship. A free market doesn’t necessarily indicate that the people are more free.
22. Agree. I’m a pro-life guy. I don’t agree with killing babies.
23. Yes, I agree. All authority should be questioned.
25. Disagree. Taxpayer money should be used to fund some museums and theaters.
26. Soft disagree. Classroom attendance should be compulsory during primary school, middle school, and high school. However, I don’t think that classroom attendance should be compulsory in college or university.
27. I agree, but this appears to be a race baiting question. Realistically speaking, people have more in common with those who were raised in a similar way (in terms of cultural traditions, morals, and values). So yes, more often than not it’s better for people to stick to their own.
28. Agree. I was a naughty kid, and the fear of getting spanked by my parents helped to straighten me out. Sometimes kids need to be spanked.
30. Soft disagree. I have nothing against people who want to purchase marijuana for personal use. The punishment for possession shouldn’t be too harsh. I don’t support the legalization of marijuana because it will cause a domino effect. Which will inevitably increase the speed of decline in society.
31. Yes, I agree. The main function of university/college should be to equip the future generation to find jobs in their field of study.
32. I’m sympathetic towards those with serious inheritable disabilities. However, I have to agree. Soft agree.
33. Yes, I agree. And I think that the Chinese education system is doing a better job at teaching children self-discipline than the Canadian education system.
34. This is a stupid one. Yes, there are savage people and civilized people. Most people are a byproduct of the culture from the country/society where they were raised. To say differently is naive.
35. Strongly agree. If you are capable of working, and you choose not to earn a living. Then you shouldn’t expect society to help support you.
37. Disagree. My parents are first generation immigrants to Canada and they integrated perfectly.
39. Disagree. Christian broadcasting networks should receive public funding in Canada.
41. This is a tricky question. Yes, I agree that a one-party state has an advantage over the Democratic political system (by avoiding all arguments). However, it doesn’t mean that I’m in favor of a one-party state.
42. Disagree. I believe that everyone has a right to privacy.
43. Agree. The death penalty should be an option for the most serious crimes.
44. Um yeah, I agree. That’s just how civilized societies function.
45. Strongly disagree. Look at the works of Jackson Pollock. This guy played a major role in the abstract arts movement.
46. Soft agree. Most cases involving criminals who’ve committed serious offenses can not be rehabilitated. For example, pedophiles. These people are sick and twisted. I’m very doubtful that you can rehabilitate them. When it comes to extreme criminal offenses, I support punishment over rehabilitation.
47. Agree, we just covered that topic.
48. Strongly disagree. The businessman and the manufacturer keep the economic wheel spinning. The artist and the writer influence and inspire people.
49. This is a terrible question because they’ve twisted it in such a way that you have to somehow choose between Mothers being house slaves or corporate slaves. A Mothers first duty is to take care of her children. So I reluctantly agree that a woman’s first duty is to be a “homemaker.”
51. Disagree. Submitting to the establishment has nothing to do with maturity.
52. Hahaha!! Who made this questionnaire? Strongly disagree.
53. Agree. If God does not exist, then objective moral values do not exist. Gods nature provides a standard reference point for moral values.
55. Disagree. The more that your remain in a state of stasis, the more “unlucky” that you will be. If you keep moving like a shark then you will increase your luck. So, no I don’t believe that some people are naturally unlucky. I believe that some people are hardworking, and others are lazy.
56. Agree. I don’t have any children of my own, however, I attended a Catholic primary school, middle-school, and high-school. So, I see the value in religious education institutions.
57. I agree that sex outside of marriage is immoral. And although I participate in the act of non marital sex, I’m not opposed to cultures or societies that ridicule and shame those who participate in it.
58. Strongly disagree. Same sex couples who adopt cause irreparable damage to children. They should never be given the opportunity to adopt and warp the innocent minds of little children. That’s child abuse.
59. Disagree. I’ve been living abroad in China for more than four years now, and I see the benefits of making pornography inaccessible. When a government makes pornography inaccessible nationwide, it’s a sign that they care about the well being of their people.
62. Strongly agree. Openness about sex has gone way too far.
I decided to take this test to see what are my political affiliations. You can take the test at https://www.politicalcompass.org/test
My answers and results are below.
According to this test I’m a centrist leaning towards the left, and authoritarianism. You can take the test by following the link below:
Welcome to try out Orthodox fasting with me.
Here are the rules:
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Whenever you meet an anti-Trump person who forces the topic of politics on you, just egg them on. Troll them. Just sit there and say:
You have to be very serious and visibly distressed if you want to pull off that last one. And don’t forget to bob your head up and down like a parrot when you say it.
Vote TRUMP 2020.
Over the past two years, I’ve been guilty of spending the majority of my earnings in an attempt to build a comfortable lifestyle in a foreign country and settle into a decent University. When your life is unstable you can’t think too much about saving. Your main objective will be survival, and you’ll experience this if you choose to follow the same path as myself. But once you reach the point of material comfort (you have a stable income, you have the tools needed to sustain a relatively comfortable lifestyle, some reliable friends, and a plan for your future), then you can begin to think about creating a financial buffer zone for yourself.
If you decide to do what I did (which was stupid), then you need to understand that it’s going to be tough. You’re going to have to learn how to rough it out. The second time that I came back to China I had little money, and I arrived to a shithole bachelor apartment with nothing but a bed and an ancient television. When I’d come home late at night and turn the lights on, I’d watch cockroaches scatter into the corners of the apartment. There were no kitchen tools, and I had to scrounge up enough cash to buy pots and pans for cooking. There was no central air conditioning, and the TV was so old that it didn’t even have an HDMI input. The money that I earned was enough to feed myself with eggs, chicken breast, bread, and ketchup. I managed to put enough cash aside to fuel myself with cheap Russian vodka and watered down Chinese beer. In the midst of this terrible situation, I was still able to lay some hot Russian women in my bed and save enough cash to pull myself out of this shit situation.
How did I pull myself out of this situation? I used my mouth.. Uh, wait.. that doesn’t sound right. What I mean to say is that I talked my way into better life circumstances. One thing that I’ve learned about the world is that you can talk your way into and out of anything that you so choose. You could call it GAME, but it works in every field of work. Male and female bosses both have a deep respect for GAME (charisma, charm, and persistence). Why? Because GAME was necessary for them to reach the power positions that they hold in their corporate businesses. So when they see a young determined dude march into their offices and present them with decent ideas in an effort to benefit their businesses, they invest. Why? Not because that guy has any good ideas, but because they see something in him.
What do bosses see in this guy? They see themselves. That’s right, he’s a mirror of who they were. Just some young chump with a willingness to go the extra mile. Bosses like this guy.
They don’t give a fuck about your university papers, they don’t give a fuck about where you went to school, and they certainly don’t give a fuck about where you were born or raised.
Do you want to know what they give a fuck about?
They give a fuck about how you can benefit them. They give a fuck about whether they can trust you to make decisions on your own which result in profits for the business. They give a fuck about whether you can turn them a profit.
And don’t ever think for one second that bosses don’t judge you for who you fuck. Your bosses observe the women that you date and use it as a way to determine your value as a man and an employee. Bosses (both male and female) are much more inclined to promote low performers who bang hot women, than high performers who bang whales and damaged women. I don’t have any solid evidence to prove this, but I have a pair of eyes just like you. That’s just how it is.
But anyway, let’s leave this topic and come back to the main point which is NUMBERS. MONEY. Your talk is worthless unless you have a little money to back you up.
So let’s take a look at some spreadsheets that will assist you to better manage your money. But before we begin, I want to note that:
1. You should have a stable income before you think about saving.
2. If you’re living in a foreign country as an expat, then you should create a comfortable lifestyle with a clear plan for the future before you begin to think about saving.
In the spreadsheets below I will outline how to manage your money from an average income to a bare minimum income in China.
In my white book I outlined a basic money management manual that worked for me at the time when I wrote it. Consider this a new and updated version.
I am taking a rest from blogging for a while. I need some time to focus on writing my new book, Story Time, which is planned to release before August 2019.
I will not be continuing my Koran study because I’ve lost interest. Maybe I’ll take another look at this Holy book later in my life.
Over the next two months, I will try my best to keep my website updated with the following:
With that said I’d like to share with you all of the benefits and lessons from my content this year, including a list of my most viewed articles.